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Wednesday, November 5, 2014

10 Tips on How to Look Cute While Wearing Garments!



[Don't what what garments are? Here is a video that explains it.]

            Onceee upon a time I got engaged. It was an awesome engagement, and happened on an island in Fiji, with the sun was shining, and my little island skirt was blowing in the wind. My fiance even captured it on video (you can watch it here)! Everything was great. All set to be married, we returned to Utah, and I was endowed in the lovely Manti temple. My Mom came in all the way from Los Angeles, my fiance’s family drove up from Toquerville, and we had a great time! THEN...darkness fell. The evening was approaching, and it was time for me to get all beautified for my bridal shower which was that very same day. I had to put on clothes. But first, I had to put on...GARMENTS.
         Let’s just say, it was not a fun time. After trying on multiple outfits I realized something. I would NEVER LOOK CUTE AGAIN. This simple truth took hold and I threw myself on my dirty BYU housing basement carpet floor in a fit of despair. My fiance looked on, trying to comfort me (and probably himself at having gotten engaged to me), telling me I looked great, and that of course I would get used to being 100 degrees hotter constantly! But I wasn’t to be comforted. I laid on the ground and cried for over an HOUR. Eventually I calmed down. But I was more resigned to my dark fate than at peace with my garmented future. I went to my bridal shower and had a great time with great people...but the struggle was real.
        I’ve always had a hard time with my body, so making me wear, essentially, a BODY SUIT underneath my clothes was enough to push me right over the edge. Now, after having worn them for 2 years, 2 months, and 13 days, I’ve learned some tips and tricks from my sage friends, superiors, and testing things out myself. I hope this helps you at least a bit, and if you have any other amazing ideas to help us all out, PLEEEASE share your wisdom with us in the comments!! Without further ado…


10 Tips on How to Look Cute While Wearing Garments!


1.) Tailor Your Garments: Fun fact! If you go to the distribution center where you purchase garments, you can actually have a worker take your measurements and order custom fitted garments (at no additional cost), and then ship them right to your house. What? Yes. It's true.  Free custom tailoring? I think YES.

Such FASHUN.

2.) Keep it Simple. Get rid of clothes that you know just don’t work with garments. Try to avoid too many awkward layers because T-shirts under sun dresses are basically the equivalent of socks with sandals (haha jkjkkkk but really). Look for classic silhouettes that work for you and that are a good mix of not too tight, which shows garment lines, but not so baggy that it’s shapeless! I think you get the idea :D


O hai doge


3.) Carinessa!! Carinessa is my BFF. We go camping together, take long walks on the beach, and even brush our teeth together :D BESTIES. Carinessa tops are hands down, the best tops for modern girls. I am sooo glad they exist!! They’re more spandexy, so they stay close to your body without poking out and billowing wherever they please. Wear them under your bra to achieve a more natural look. Carinessa bottoms are great to wear with skinny jeans and leggings, because they stay close to your body and don’t roll up as much (or at all). They also travel well because they are extremely wrinkle resistant! Remember that Carinessa is a warmer material and holds in some heat! This is awesome for winter, buuut less awesome for summer. Not that I stop wearing them in summer but theoretically.




4.) Sweaters are Better-s: Big boxy knit sweaters, loose thin drapey sweaters, all the sweaters!  All the most fashion-ista-y girls I talked to are huge proponents of the sweater look. Sweaters look great because they are longer, and thicker. They lengthen you out, conceal garment lines, and they’re really simple to match! Both open sweaters (like open fronted cardigans) and pullovers look great. I'm also including tunics here. Tunics are often a great choice! Tunics are essentially longer shirts. One of my main problems with garments is that I feel like they make outfits look bulkier. Tunics are a great way to make you look longer and leaner. Plus, they very easily conceal the line around your waist from the bottoms! But make sure you buy tunics that look good on you! A badly fitting tunic (too clingy, too wide, too long) can be no bueno and make you look more like a big plastic bag than you'd probably like.




5.) Layer it up: Layers! I sometimes hate layers because maybe I am soooo lazy and more layers = pulling more clothes over my head. Also I'm always afraid I'll end up looking a tiny bit homeless. Nevertheless, layers done right can make a good outfit into a great outfit, and your garments will be completely concealed and unobtrusive! There are lots of cute undershirts that you can wear as a base (many girls favorites are from DownEast). Then, layer using fun sweaters, vests, ponchos, or jackets over them. Below, Sarah is showing us how layering is done!



6.) A-lines and pencil skirts: Pencil skirts have high waists that line up with the Carinessa waistline for a smooth long look. These are great for the working ladies out there in professional settings, or anytime you want to look chic, really! Drisilque is also a good material option for the bottoms here, because it’s lighter and keeps you cooler if you are running around to meetings. DriSilque is also a bit higher up on the thigh fyi, so you don’t have to worry about your garments poking out as much.

7.) Get some “extra help”: Skin Tape, Spanx, demi tees- these are all great extra’s that can really make a difference! Skin tape can hold your shirt in place so that your garment doesn’t slip out. You tape your shirt (not your garment) to your skin, so that it doesn’t sashay around wherever it pleases. Skin tape also can be used to close the gaps with button down shirts (hurrah!). Spanx are great when you’ve got any lumpiness going on; you don’t need to wear them to look smaller, but you can definitely wear them to look smoother. Downeast has demi-tees which are thin undershirts that only cover your bra and shoulders (not your stomach). These are great to wear under sheer shirts, and they hide the obvious garment neckline!


8.) Nips and Tucks: If you dislike garment lines on your thighs, then wear the capri length bottoms! These go past your knee so there’s no thigh line to speak of. Also, almost always you should tuck your top into the bottoms!! This stops bunching, movement, and keeps a smooth silhouette. Make sure your bottoms aren’t too tight/small, because if they are, they will create a lovely little pooch from the pressure of the waistband :) Also, get your tops in long, and your bottoms in petite. Long tops make it so much easier to keep your garments tucked in, and if you bend over, nothing will be accidentally revealed to bystanders. Petite bottoms have lower waistlines, so your garments aren't pulled practically up to your chest like "grannie panties"!


                                      


9.) Buy ALL the things: One thing that this article can’t do is try on the garments for you! Garments are pretty affordable, so GO CRAZY and try new materials and sizes! From mesh to silk to thermals, garments come in all varieties- they even make special garments for the armed forces! Best case scenario: you find some awesome new garments that fit better with some of your favorite outfits! Worst case scenario: you end up being EXTRA grateful for your Carinessa and DriSilque as you shudder at the garments of the past!




10.) REMEMBER THE WHY!: Why are we wearing garments? We talked about the How, but one thing to always remember is the “why”. Learning about garments can help us to appreciate what they really mean. If garments were merely another layer of clothes to deal with, then why would we wear them? Really thinking about and studying the meaning behind them can make a big impact on how you feel towards your garments on a daily basis. I didn’t think I would, but I really loved the Church’s recent video about them. It helped me connect and relate it to other cultures, and how they value sacred garments as well.




          Anyways, oooobviously I am no expert, but I hope this at least gives you somewhere to start! I initially had a way hard time with garments, but now I hardly think about it! I also drew mucho wisdom from my awesome and much more fashionable friends: Natalie, Sarah, Lauren, Jessica, and Megan! Thanks so much for reading! And I wish you a life full of joyful shopping trips ;)  


XOxoxoxoxoxo Alyne



53 comments:

  1. Alyne, you are amazing!!! <3 Love all your pictures, you and the girls that are in the pictures are beautiful! <3

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  2. Thanks for posting this!! I felt the exact same way as you the day I got garments... It kind if ruined my day... I still struggle with this and it makes me in the worst mood sometimes! So THANK YOU!!

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    1. Haha I am so glad you can relate! Don't worry even after researching and writing this I am sure I will still have my days :p

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  3. Wow Alyne that was such a good post! I love it! Obviously I don't wear garments but I think there were a ton of good tips in there for both garment and non-garment wearers. :) you're so great!

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    1. Ahhh, thanks so much that means a lot!! Yeah I read it after I wrote it and I was like, if someone doesn't know what garments are they will probably think that I am like, ESL and that I am calling them "garments" instead of "clothes"!! ahaha

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  4. Holy cow I didn't know about #1. I will SO be doing this if it helps with waist heights - I am tall, so have to get the tall bottoms, but the waists are way too high and hurt, so I have to roll them down (yes, still completely covered). However, I disagree with #8 because they are supposed to reach your knees, so buying petite when you are not petite is cheating, immodest, and dishonest. For #9, if you end up returning stuff but feel bad when you learn they have to destroy used garments, just keep the garments you don't like in your 72-hour kit for emergencies. And yes, definitely wear your bra OVER your garments. Garments go under everything and the bra helps hold the top in place and cover certain things. I find it sad that people feel this way about garments. I love Al Fox's perspective: http://alfoxshead.blogspot.com/2014/11/the-truth-about-mormon-temples-and-what.html

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    1. I also really dislike the cotton bottoms because they ride up, but not down, so you get a big line around your thigh that is both unattractive and immodest. I like carinessa and dri silque.

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    2. I like your 72 hour kit suggestion, I need to update them anyway. I appreciate your commitment to what you see as a keeping your covenants. I don't think that we can speak to the way any other person wears their garments and be accurate. We don't know individual body types, or how certain things fit on others. It's possible that the petites fit on others just as they should. But let's not be too hard on each other regardless. One of the most sincere elements of garments is that they are an intimate reminder of a covenant to use the atonement and allow Christ to cover our sins. How the garment is worn is the responsibility of the wearer, so let's not throw around harsh terms like "cheating, immodest, and dishonest".

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    3. I agree with Andrea. As a 6'4 female, I was sized at the distribution center and the garments that were "long enough" wouldn't stay up. I now order petite, and while they are short, they fit nicely and stay on my body. I don't wear shorter shorts or skirts because of it. The important part is that I'm able to wear them and remember why I'm wearing them.

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    4. Angela, Can you state where you heard that garments are supposed to go the knees? I've never heard that before. Also, concerning the bra. A couple of years ago, we had a Stake Relief Conference where our Stake RS president had a meeting with the Temple Matron and she said the wearing of the bra was a personal matter on if you wanted to wear underneath or on top of your garment. If you are big chested, you know how incredibly uncomfortable wearing a bra on top of a garment is.

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    5. In the temple it states that a certain part of the garment is "designed to cover the kneecap." That's obviously not going to happen on knee-length bottoms since they scoot off your knee, but we should get as close as possible. I'm aware that not everyone realizes this though, and my use of the words "cheating, immodest, and dishonest" was not intended to be directed at them, but rather as a corrective reminder to those who willfully disobey or in other ways try to make excuses to wear things as small as possible.
      I feel like leg lines are more noticeable when garment bottoms are too short. I also recently discovered that I should be wearing the B fit instead of the A fit on bottoms, so that will hopefully alleviate a bunch of my waistband problems. For very tall people like Steph, I wonder if they could try Tip #1 and get their bottoms custom-fitted (or if they wear A, try B, or vice-versa).
      For the bra, I just find it very awkward and immodest when I can see certain garment things through womens' shirts, but I don't think chest size has any impact on comfort. When I eventually have a baby and nurse them, I'll still wear my bra over; just put a nursing pad under your garment top and it'll be held more securely than a bra alone.

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    6. Actually, chest size does make a huge difference on which way the bra is worn - believe me. It was the temple matron that said we could choose which way to wear our bra. For the nursing, it's not as simple as just putting a nursing pad under your garment top. It still causes problem but nursing can be done because thousands of women of done it.

      As for the fit around the waist, I have a bad scar from 2 C-sections and garment bottoms occasionally make the scar hurt and itchy. I've tried pretty much every garment bottom an none of them work well.

      Guess what I'm trying to get across is that women struggle with garments with for many different reasons - style, comfort, fit, etc. We should tried to be understanding of that just like we understand everyone struggles with different commandments and counsel.

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  5. Please contact karyn@sexymodest.com we would like to maybe do a trade and have to wear our product

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  6. I liked your article, however, I think it's important to note that it isn't really free to have your garments tailored. It's paid for with tithing money and I personally don't think it's something we should do whenever we want. The money comes from somewhere and it's important to remember that.

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    1. Um, no. We should not wear ill fitting underwear FOR THE REST OF OUR LIVES because garment are subsidized with tithing money. The church has declared that endowed members are to wear the garment, period. They also have decided to not allow members to make their own, and they are the sole provider. The prohibitive cost of garments, combined with the wildly inaccurate sizing and poor quality control means that most women are wearing underwear that doesn't fit correctly and is not functional, and they have no other option except for buying custom garments. For heaven's sake, they are supposed to be a simple reminder of covenants, not a hair shirt.

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  7. I had a hard time reading your article. (Stumbled upon it on Facebook.) Your attitude to your temple garments, when you were first endowed, is what hurt the most! You didn't appreciate them as a sacred blessing and gift! The garment should never be viewed as God getting in the way of what you want to do. God's laws shouldn't be viewed as an inconvenience, which is how your portray them in this blog post. And just to note, for those who haven't been endowed, you should already be dressing modestly. Garments will not come as an inconvenient surprise to you, if you have already been following the counsel of the prophets, as stated in For the Strength of the Youth.
    "The garment represents sacred covenants. It fosters modesty and becomes a shield and protection to the wearer.
    The wearing of such a garment does not prevent members from dressing in the fashionable clothing generally worn in the nations of the world. Only clothing that is immodest or extreme in style would be incompatible with wearing the garment. Any member of the Church, whether he or she has been to the temple or not, would in proper spirit want to avoid extreme or revealing fashions." https://www.lds.org/manual/preparing-to-enter-the-holy-temple/preparing-to-enter-the-holy-temple?lang=eng

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    1. So she isn't perfect. None of us are. I wore extremely conservative clothing before being endowed and still had to adjust to garments. Expecting immediate perfection in everything isn't fair to ourselves or others. If we really were like that, there would be no reason for our mortal lives. We women need to support and honor each other, which is what the author was trying to do.
      Lots of love your way. :)

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    3. Yes, garments are a wonderful and sacred symbol of the covenants we make in the temple, but they are still an adjustment. There is an adjustment period. This is not unreasonable; this is NORMAL. Having a difficult time adjusting does not necessarily mean one was dressing immodestly, sees their covenants as an inconvenience, or was living any less righteously. Your comment is not fair to her and many other women who had a hard adjustment period.
      I struggled during my transition to wearing garments. I STILL struggle, and I have always dressed modestly. Every one of my endowed female friends I have spoken to about garments has felt this way as well. I may not always like the way they fit, bunch together, ride up, or come up too high, but I keep my covenants and wear them anyways. It is the symbol of the garment that is important. God knows that I don't necessarily like them, but I wear them. That is between me and God. It is between Alyne and God, and it is between you and God.

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    4. Bless you Regan and McKall! You two got it :)

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    5. Ouch....I agree, reading that description at the beginning of the article was seriously something that nearly brought tears to my eyes. Yes, everyone goes through an adjustment period. Knowing and acknowledging that doesn't mean that everyone needs to give up and assume they'll "never look cute again" and that people need to be resigned to their "dark fate" and find ways to make the best of a bad situation. Sometimes, it is more about reaching the underlying attitudes and causes and suddenly the ordeal becomes a major, wonderful, and divine blessing....and turning that "dark fate" into a major source for joy as well as realizing that you'll no longer "look cute" because now you look gorgeous and elegant.

      Ladies, please also realize: no one's body is the same as the person next to them, so off-the-rack isn't ever going to fit perfectly or smoothly....which is why the cuts and 'styles' are always changing/expanding. Please recognize such might also be applicable to the way we portray our experiences to those around us and answer them when they don't agree with us by changing and helping to grow/expand options of the ways we reach out to help others? It is amazing the ways you can learn and grow from comments people give and observations they make, especially when we stop looking for the negative and focus on finding the positives.

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    6. Please stop bashing those who struggle with garments. It is real and it is really condescending. Hood thst you love and revered them from day 1. Support those who need time to make peace with it.

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    7. I realize that for some, adjusting to garments is difficult, but my issue is with how negatively it was presented ("a fit of despair"). I feel like this issue could have been discussed in a way that didn't make garments sound so horrible. I would also have liked to see more about the blessings of garments, though I do realize this was more of a "how to wear them" fashion post.
      As for garment fits, keep trying different sizes and cuts until you find the best and then make do. And some very modest clothing doesn't work with garments, and it's annoying, but they do update garment styles every few years. I just bought new stuff today and they said something about updating the cotton-poly necklines from round to more of a sweetheart style. I don't know the details, but I hope it will eliminate the problem where when you try to wear a very modest non-round neckline but tiny bits of your garment top show in the corners by the top of your bra cup (I hope that description made sense - or just think the bottom corners of a square-neck top).

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  8. This may sound weird but my favorite bottoms by far are the MENS extra support. They are AMAZING!!. They have a really thick top waist band so I never have to worry about lines around my tummy anymore. And they are basically like spandex so they never ride up AT ALL. And I asked at the distribution center and they said it is totally approved to wear either gender style. Seriously check them out. Changed my life. :)

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    1. I have never heard of that!!! I always wondered if we could wear mens, so awesome! Thanks for the tip!!

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    2. How do they compare to Carinessa? I'm not sure about wearing mens... I know you asked, but I still need to find out for myself.

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  9. This 1st World LDS Problem about not looking cute when wearing garments just made me go LOL.

    Love,
    Your Philippines / India sister in Zion.

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    1. Haha I literally had "first world problem" in the post but I ended up taking it out! Of COURSE this is not a real huge world issue and I totally agree about that! I figured if we are more comfy in our garments then we will spend less time worrying about them and more time on making the world better :D :D :D

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  10. Good for you for figuring out ways to make garments work for you. I hope you'll ignore any judgmental, self-righteous comments. They are so out of line with the heart and soul of the gospel.

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  11. Not going to comment on the whole of your post, because I don't agree with it as a whole. However, I thought you would be interested to know that I have heard that the church is going to stop making petite sizes, but I can't find any thing that supports that.

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    1. I really hope that's just a rumor. There are lots of people who are too short to wear the regular ones. It's not even the length of the legs that's the problem with the regular ones, it's how high the waistband comes up.

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    2. Ok, did some research on this because I really was curious about this . Was told that the church was going to stop making petite sizes because of "girls intentionally buying petite sizes in order to be able to wear shorter skirts/shorts" (Direct quote.) However, I do not know if that is going to be just in certain fabrics or what, but I also do know that there are some Distribution Centers that no longer carry petites in certain fabrics. But I was able to find them online. Was also told that "tailored garments were intended to accommodate members that have a physical disability such as a missing arm or leg that cannot comfortably wear the traditional style of garment" (direct quote from a seamstress who actually makes the garments). Hope that helps some people.

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    3. Excellent. I do hope they'll lower the waists on the other sizes though. They all come up too high. I need a petite waist (the highest I'd go though) and tall legs.

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  12. I loved reading this, it is so good to know that there are others who didn't "click" with garments right away! I am so much more comfortable with them now but I am still excited to try out these tips. I hope the negative comments here don't get you down, they are totally uncalled for :)

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    1. Thank you Sadie I appreciate it!! No worries there are so many nice people backing me up that it balances it out ;) Love your blog, it's super cute!!

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  13. Nice post. It's too bad that you are getting judgmental comments. Some people I guess are just lucky enough to have bodies that work with garments. I've been endowed for 12 years, and I love the temple and I love the symbolism of garments, but it's been very hard for me over the years to find garments that work for my body type. It's not because I'm trying to be immodest or "cheat" (seriously, that was a weird comment to accuse someone of "cheating" with their garments), it's just that they weren't designed to fit my kind of body. I also get a rash from the elastic waistbands and the lace edges on the arms, but switching to men's bottoms and Carinessa tops helped with that. Another option that can help is trying the one piece garments. They don't fit comfortably on everyone, but for some people they work really well.

    You sound like a very faithful and thoughtful person who is trying to make garments work, and I think it's really nice that you took a risk here and shared something so personal, because I think it will be helpful to a lot of people who want to make garments work, but have trouble with them. I remember one of my friends coming home from the temple for the first time and crying because she got her period and didn't know what to do about it with garments on. It's a hard adjustment for some people, especially people with body image issues, or health problems, or bodies that aren't shaped like the average woman. Just ignore the people who are being rude on here. A lot of people struggle with garments, especially at first, and I think it's good to talk about it and share ideas to make garments work rather than just being uncomfortable or giving up.

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    1. Thank you so much!! Yes I remember my first period too and I was like, am I supposed to wear real underwear or what do I do?! Haha I didn't even think of explaining that part of it, great idea! Plus there are often women who go through the temple without close family that they would feel comfortable talking with, so it can be hard!! Thanks again for the support!!

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    2. In the temple it states that a certain part of the garment is "designed to cover the kneecap." That's obviously not going to happen on knee-length bottoms since they scoot off your knee, but we should get as close as possible. I'm aware that not everyone realizes this though, and my use of the words "cheating, immodest, and dishonest" was not intended to be directed at them, but rather as a corrective reminder to those who willfully disobey or in other ways try to make excuses to wear things as small as possible. I should have clarified in my original post. I need a petite waistband and tall legs, but I can roll the waistband down easily enough (it's easier to adjust the height that way anyway). I feel like leg lines are more noticeable when garment bottoms are too short, so it seems odd to me that somebody trying to make garments look cute wouldn't care about that.

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    3. Forgot to mention: I used those words with the intent that they would be strong enough to draw attention and hopefully make people think (and reach their own conclusion), but didn't intend to come off as harshly as I did, so hopefully my clarification helps.

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  14. Great post. Thanks for putting yourself out there and sharing what works for you. These are great suggestions. Garments are terribly ill fitting for women, and modern clothing isn't designed to be worn with old fashioned underwear. Kudos for finding a way to make it work for you. And don't worry about those who feel to the need to judge you and your feeling about the garment. You are on your own spiritual path, and you seem like a lovely, faithful woman. :)

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  15. Those preachy comments are coming from people who struggle but put up a front. They pretend to be perfect when in fact, they are just like us. Your post is refreshingly honest. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and ideas! It is a hard adjustment, I'm a convert and no one told me about garments so imagine my surprise when I saw them. I seriously thought Mormons were crazy. It took me a long time to accept them. I still struggle with wearing them because they're very uncomfortable. But hey, to each their own.

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  16. I LOVE THIS! I never knew about #1!!! As someone who is short, thin, but very busty I super appreciate this article! I've never, ever been able to find any tops that fit correctly and it has been an emotional battle between doing what's right but being uncomfortable. I am so excited to know I have a choice of being custom fitted!!! You have made my day!

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  18. You should also check out my new line for garment coverage! Perfect :) facebook.com/plummwear

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  19. So glad to have found this article. I've always been pretty modest before converting but even I struggled and I still do. I think that God wants us to wear them with honor, but it is hard when things are not lining up, are not comfortable, and you do not have a close support group to talk about these things. Opening up about our struggles help us to overcome these little nuances. So that we can overcome them and focus on bigger things. These tips are really going to help me FEEL comfortable. For me right now, I'm focusing on trying to get my summer clothes as light as possible. Whenever I hear someone say "Modest is Hottest" I automatically think of pulling out a fan. haha The other thing is I started to wear my garments over my bra when I was nursing. I get the "closest to your body" council but I was so stressed out trying to figure out how to nurse comfortably without taking so much time just prepping to nurse and being uncomfortable. To be honest If I'm faithful to my covenants and trying my best to be modest, I think He probably cares less whether I wear it over or under my bra. Thank you Alyne

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  20. I'm so grateful for this article! I'm 9 months pregnant and about to get endowed so buying garments hasn't been a typical experience. I really appreciate the discussion on different fits/fabrics because I can't find any advise anywhere about it! I have been at a loss and I'm grateful that there are women willing to give advice on what has worked for them. I sure wish we could try them on, though!

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  21. I'm going through the Payson temple this Saturday and I have been freaking out about not looking cute with garments too! I LOVE THIS POST! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!

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  22. I know the last comment is from last year, but here goes. I found Alyne’s article comforting. It’s too bad that at first she had to go through such distress about the garment, but kudos to her for honesty! Each of us struggles with following some aspect of the Restored Gospel. It’s good to be able to read how people really feel, and I wish that folks were slower to make unsupportive replies, but knowing the danger and posting anyway is brave. Sharing her experience can help others. For instance, a sister planning her endowment might decide to receive it early enough to allow plenty of adjustment before her wedding.

    Receiving my Endowment was the best event of my life, but in preparation, I did have some unanswered questions. 14 years ago, when I converted, my then fiancé, who had converted long before we met, couldn’t tell me much about women’s’ garments. Although the sisters in our ward were wonderful, I was too shy to ask much. Articles like this would’ve helped a lot. I’m grateful that there’s no LDS bashing here, even if that is due to editing.

    I’ll be sorry if they stop offering petite garments, for the sake of sisters like the 5 foot tall missionary from Jamaica who got through to me the best. Though I’m somewhat petite, she told me that the tall sized tops are better at staying tucked into jeans, so I got the chemise style in tall, which works. However, on the styles with an angular or “sweetheart” neckline, for me the tall ones have way too much distance between the neckline and the shoulders, so they bunch or slide.

    A variety in size options reflects the worldwide nature of the Church. I appreciate the reminder from sister “eatsinbaguio” that this type of concern for dressing with the garment is mainly a “First world” problem. Those of us with options to shop for clothes at all are indeed very blessed. I also congratulate sisters in places like India for often enduring extreme resistance for joining the Church. When a friend of ours from India joined, her family accused her of bringing curses on them.

    (Alyne, thanks for this article. Just in case you didn’t know, your video from Fiji is marked private.)

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